In Celebration of Autistic Motherhood

In Celebration of Autistic Motherhood

Autism and Expectations

Unlike unicorns and dragons and mermaids, autistic mothers are real. We don’t get a lot of media-representation, we don’t seem to fit the stereotypes, but we exist.

Motherhood and autism brings to my mind the scent of my children as they lay in my arms as babies. Just the two of us, alone in the dark. Like a warm blanket of safety and connection. There was no end to me, and no beginning to them. We were whole.

It makes me think of how that changed. How each of them grew and blossomed and unfurled their branches, in new and beautiful patterns. It reminds me of the first time each of them told me something I didn’t know. How powerful learning from your own child is.

It makes me think of those times when I put my sensory needs to one side. Those times were hard, but I would always…

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A Commitment to a Better Start

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Commitment takes on that unique sort of talent. Seeing the determination into a different turn of life. Courage will take it to the following level. In between there’s some sacrifice that should put that commitment in one position.

A tough way that shall bring more than a commitment into the next stage of life. It’s like fighting its way to the top. Realizing that change of heart going around.

There’s no word through commitment. It’s entirely an act. An act that’s stuck within that guts of life.

Discipline and hard work will shine, it’s true colors. Needing that greater moment to go there for that commitment figure.

Imagination takes the impact. Containing the only limit into that strong point of life. Opening up that true color through commitment.

There will be different choices through commitment. It can add on to fear. More like a battle to tackle along.

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Is Gratitude Overrated? *NEW POST*

Is Gratitude Overrated? *NEW POST*

Dr. Eric Perry

By Dr. Perry, PhD

“Cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson

I have been told by more than one patient that the word “gratitude” has become very cliche. They are constantly being told to be grateful as if it is a fix all to their problems. While it may not magically do away with our problems, gratitude has been shown to have a beneficial effect in anyone’s life.

So what is gratitude and is it really such a great thing to have?

One of the best definitions I have found is as follows, gratitude is “the quality of being thankful and a readiness to show appreciation for and to return the kindness.” This is a powerful definition which contains both a…

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Sublimation – Turning Negative Urges into Positive Actions *NEW POST*

Sublimation – Turning Negative Urges into Positive Actions *NEW POST*

Dr. Eric Perry

By Dr. Perry, PhD

“Adopting the right attitude can convert a negative stress into a positive one.” ~Hans Selye

Sublimation is a subconscious psychological defense mechanism whereby we take a negative impulse and channel it into a positive behavior. This is similar to displacement (click here to refer to my earlier post on displacement) but instead of taking a negative impulse, such as aggression towards one’s boss, and displacing that negative feeling onto an innocent third party such as your husband or wife, we take the initial socially unacceptable impulse and direct it towards a positive action. We seek a positive alternative form of fulfillment for the initial destructive urge. According to Freud, the strength of the negative urge would define the strength of the positive outcome.

Our initial impulses can be subconsciously directed into a number of different areas. Here are some ways that we can engage in sublimation.

1. Anger/Emotional…

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Week in the Word: Building our life on the Blueprint of Christ


This is the message I preached on Sunday, April 15, at Hanks Chapel United Church of Christ in Pittsboro, NC.   I hope it blesses you!  If you find yourself in or near Pittsboro, please join us!   Hanks Chapel has Sunday school at 9 AM, with worship beginning at 10 AM, and is located at 190 Hanks Chapel Loop, Pittsboro, NC.   

Building our Life on the Blueprint of Christ

building-home-construction2Philippians 1:27-2:11, Common English Bible

27 Most important, live together in a manner worthy of Christ’s gospel. Do this, whether I come and see you or I’m absent and hear about you. Do this so that you stand firm, united in one spirit and mind as you struggle together to remain faithful to the gospel. 28 That way, you won’t be afraid of anything your enemies do. Your faithfulness and courage are a sign of their coming destruction and your salvation…

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Seeing Achievements in that Very Moment

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An achievement can carry on like goals and focusing on your lifestyle. The achievements in your life can represent something. Life beyond it shall reach the levels of a better opportunity to get into it.

There’s stories with achievements in them. Experiencing so many things that can be more like stepping forward into a more achieving life. Finding the stepping stones of their lives that shall release the struggles and turn it into success.

Setting goals is one of the main thing to achieve on. Getting that good plan so you can work your way up.

Through that journey beyond an achievement standard there’s gratitude. Gratitude opens up to that achieving moment. Taking it up to the next level. It can be a more suitable moment to live through achievement.

Achievements gives a potent thought to cherish something a lot more bittersweet. Enchanting that performance of a quality life.

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