Carry Life Into A Dream

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A life loving moment, shall carry that dream for that certain someone. Feeling like there’s an encouraging acts of life. Having that perfect dream is a lot more to follow that very instant. A dream shall lived in. Receiving the knowledge to just cherish it all the way.

There’s peace within that loving dream. A dream can make someone like a child to see it more than just a perfect wish. A wish can make a child feel like there’s something to believe in. More like when there’s love, laughter, and peace all round. Something into that joyful spirit can relate to a dream. A dream can bring that brightest moment like a wishing star.

Each moment will have something more like a dream. Making for the goodness of all. Feeling like there’s a sun shining all over. Getting hold of the ability to overcome that rising movement when it…

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Live Through The Heart, Mind, & Soul

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The heart, mind, and soul have that pure empowerment. Feeling like there’s that small deed of that gentle reaction. More like small acts of life. Through it all the heart, mind, and soul will hold out that secret twist. That secret twist is a success.

An articulation can see that pure heart. Feeling like there’s that open-minded trust. Letting that heart shines through. Like having that heart be a bit more bittersweet. The heart has that feeling that can cherish all over. Kind of like a total movement.

The mind takes in its thoughtful feeling. More like cherishing so many things about it. Besides there’s that mind of thoughts. Every thought inside can pass through the mind. Knowing what’s going on in life. Life gets into that mind into a different level. Feeling like that the mind can be an unremarkable thing.

A soul can balance out a whole lot…

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‘Why I cancelled Christmas’ – some thoughts and strategies on surviving the holiday season

This blog is referring to the secular, commercial Christmas. I do not think Jesus (who is quiet and introverted), would want His birthday being turned into a huge commercial greed fest.


It has got to that time of year where people ask me what I am doing for Christmas. I invariably say ‘I will be having quiet one.’ They usually look horrified as I go on to explain that I plan to spend the day with Mr kItty and all the people who live in my laptop and that instead of giving and receiving gifts, singing carols or eating too much food,  I will be making artworks and writing. This will be the fourth Christmas I have not spent with family. It is not that I dislike my family members or somehow want to punish them. It is just that all the expectations and chaos of a big Christmas usually result in a meltdown and a lot of related stress for me. While for me the solution to this is avoiding the whole thing, I understand that this is not…

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A Spiritual Self Moment

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There’s that development through that self moment. Letting down every emotion. More like putting peace first. Nothing can start out that peaceful smile. Attaining the most out of it. A self life shall open up that mindful trust.

In between that self caring moment, there’s that spiritual feeling. Placing it against that soulful lifestyle. It’s like there’s that shining moment going around. Believing into that emotional state of wisdom. Letting that spiritual moment rises beneath that perfect vision.

An loving care will combine something more irrelevant. Letting that essence of life shining through. More like finding that spiritual life style. Seeing in that pure moment. More like seeing to believe in.

A self spiritual moment, shall lead the path. Carrying so many things ahead. Feeling like there’s a story to narrate. Having everything go in that peaceful way.

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The Annotated Catechism for Autistic Thinking Introduction: Basic Catholic Prayers By Aimee O’Connell

Originally posted here:

The Baltimore Catechism begins not with instruction but with the most frequently heard prayers in the Catholic faith. Why start here? What motivated the Catholic scholars to start with prayers before we even get into the premise of our faith? Wouldn’t it make more sense to start by explaining God and what we know about Him before we dive straight into how to invoke Him and converse with Him?

When the Baltimore Catechism was first published in 1891, then again in 1921, the concept of a user’s manual did not exist yet in the common American vernacular. Nowadays, manuals are passé. Most consumer products are designed to be user-friendly, plug-and-play, unbox and go. What we see more and more is a “Quick Start Guide” or reference card as an alternative to a more lengthy instruction book.

The choice to begin with prayer instead of doctrine is very much like a Quick Start Guide to the Catholic Faith. One could see simply the words to be memorized in order to fit in and participate right off the bat, or one could see what these words represent and glean the fundamental summary of our faith right here. In a sense, this echoes the experience of social skills instruction: we are taught basic stock phrases to use in certain situations and can skate by nicely if we learn to use each at the proper time, or we can more deeply consider what each means and why each evokes the response it does from those around us.

And so, the Baltimore Catechism introduces the prayers most frequently heard in the Catholic faith which also act to summarize the scope of our beliefs. We have the Our Father, Hail Mary, Apostles’ Creed, Confiteor, and the Acts of Faith, Hope and Love as our Quick Start Guide. No time to unpack the finer elements comprising our faith? Then, become familiar with these prayers and recite them with sincerity to experience what being Catholic is all about.

It is greatly tempting to take any of these prayers and expound on their meaning; likewise, to write at great lengths about prayer itself, since that alone is a concept which confounds and has confounded people of all neurotypes from the beginning of time. Some people find prayer natural, and others find it impossible. Some pray primarily with words; others with actions; others with song; others by experience. It is said there is no wrong way to pray. Within the Mission of Saint Thorlak, we simplify prayer to mean: deliberate relationship with God. For those of us on the spectrum, this makes a bold clarification, as everything with us seems to come down to “relationship” and “relationship deficit.”

“How do I know I am praying?” If we are engaging, or sincerely intending to engage, our thoughts and emotions with God, we are praying.

“How do I know I am praying well?” If our attention is on God, or wanting to know God, or wanting to share ourselves with God, we are praying well.

“How do I know I am praying right?” If we are showing honesty, sincerity, commitment of our attention and desire to increase the trust we feel that God is real, we are praying right.

In contrast, the following factors have nothing whatsoever to do with gauging the quality of our prayer:

How we feel before, during or after
How we compare to others
How loudly we pray
How long we pray

Here is where many autistics run into difficulty: Prayer is meant to be a mutual conversation between ourselves and God. Sounds easy… if conversation is something that comes easy. The advantage of having “prayers” (plural noun) is that they can assist our “prayer” (intentional action) in the same way reading scripted dialogue can help familiarize us with conversational skills, gradually leading us to where we can become more comfortable and more spontaneous. Furthermore, scripted prayers make excellent study guides so that we can know more about God before we jump into spontaneous conversation.

The downside is that the literal words might become distracting. For example:

Our Father – calls to mind our actual father and all the attributes we associate with him. It can be hard to think of God in any other terms than the image we associate with “father.”

Who Art in Heaven – means we can’t see him, and can feel like God lives in an invisible castle somewhere.

Hallowed Be Thy Name – what does that mean? (That the name of God itself stirs respect).

Thy Kingdom Come – is confusing to anyone not familiar with monarchy. Again, it calls to mind imaginary castles from storybooks.

In their fuller context, these words mean:

God, who loves us as His own children, who exists in a realm beyond what we can see: may you be loved every time we say your name! May your ways of love and mercy be known right here, right now!

If that is still not clear, one of the shortest, valid prayers we can say is: JESUS.

How is this so?

-It calls Jesus to mind, which begins building a relationship.
-It literally means “He will save us.” Saying his name, therefore, is a declaration of faith.
-It brings Him present to us, the same way calling anyone else’s name gets their attention.

Still finding it confusing? Don’t despair. The fuller manual is still ahead. Not everyone can jump in with just the Quick Start Guide, especially if it’s something completely unfamiliar. By the time we’re done, it might make more sense. Faith in God is something that will always leave people with more questions than answers, and that is, in many ways, reassuring. After all, a quest we never fully complete can never become stale or stagnant.

‘Sticks and stones will break my bones AND words can really hurt me’ – the important of language in inclusion 


Over my many years as an autism advocate I have met many people who complain about ‘political correctness.’ This article is my response to this. 

A few years ago I was asked to give a talk by a non-autistic, parent-led group. I knew some of the autistic parents in the town my presentation was in and had been doing work with them for some time. The organiser of the event warned me about ‘some hard-line activists’ which I worked out meant my autistics parent friends. At the talk, the ‘Dorothy Dixer’ (i.e. ‘easy’) question to me, aiming to put me at ease was from this event organiser. They asked me ‘how do we manage all these politically correct extremists?’ Not so much a ‘Dixer’ question but I answered it anyway. I said that ‘political correctness’ tends to be an insulting way to describe inclusiveness and wanting to be respectful…

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A Moment of Christmas

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Christmas takes on that spiritual moment. A moment that can cherish the time and knowledge. There’s that true feeling beyond the spirit of Christmas. Carrying that peace and joy all around. Letting every open hearts counts.

There’s a gift for the true tenderness of mind. Letting the loving joy of Christmas rising beneath that perfect feeling. Passing at that moment to cherish everything about that lovely holiday season. The holiday season can be even better every single year. Feeling like there’s that perfect need of a holiday tradition.

Christmas will bring that happiness all around. Bringing that wonders of joy all over. More like doing something extra special for Christmas. Letting that sweet moment balancing throughout that special day. It will eventually come around every single year.

Our souls will be blessed with some Christmas joy. Moving our bodies and minds into that lovely spirit. Cherishing our thoughts to that…

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35 interview tips for those on the spectrum By Samantha Craft

1. Have a professional email address. In example, don’t use ‘’

2. Use a professional signature line. Include your full name, contact information, and state/province where you are located.

3. Be polite and professional. First impressions do matter. Don’t send an email asking: “Hey. Are you guys hiring?” Take time to write a brief and precise introductory email that shows forethought and respect. Include your skills and background, why you are interested in the organization and how you heard about the organization and job role.

4. Don’t mention personal information such as a recent divorce, demotion, or bad experience at past place of employment. Keep initial contact brief and positive.

5. Practice a response that demonstrates you reviewed the organization’s history, an answer that demonstrates you did some research, such as years in business, locations, mission statement, founders, philosophy, community involvement. For example, if applying to be a restaurant manager, know the menu, know the clientele, off season, busy season, consumer ratings, other restaurants owned, how long the restaurant has been in business. A bit of research sets a candidate apart from the other job seekers and demonstrates attributes of resourcefulness and attention to detail.

6. Practice one clear response that summarizes why you are a beneficial candidate for the job. Include 3 to 5 specific attributes/skills that match the job requirements (e.g., able to take in vast amounts of new information and apply to task at hand in short amount of time, consistent with follow through, put over 100% effort into work).

7. List specific adjectives that describe you as a worker (e.g., efficient, quick learner, reliable).

8. Practice answering the question: “Why would you like to work for our company at this time?” List 2 specific personal attributes that make you a good match with the organization and 2 facts about the organization that you admire or find interesting.

9. Make a list of 2 personal work experiences that relate to the job. Include work for neighbors, relatives, volunteer groups, clubs, educational establishments, if needed.

10. Search for generic interview questions online and practice answering the questions into the recorder on your phone or computer. Time your responses. Note the use of “uhh,” “um,” “you know,” “ah,” and similar time filler words. Practice pausing to reduce use of distracting and unnecessary words.

11. Practice mock interview questions with a trusted friend, colleague, classmate, faith house member, professor, or family member. Ask for feedback about length of responses, word choice, clarity, staying on topic, etc. Practice a few times, minimum.

12. Practice reciting an example that illustrates that you were a part of a team. List 3 reasons why you are an effective team player. If you don’t have a lot of job experience, consider sports, schooling, gaming, volunteer work, clubs, organizations.

13. Choose something to wear to the interview in advance. Have an outfit laid out, unwrinkled, and suitable for the company’s culture and professionalism required for the job. If you are applying for a position that requires jeans and a t-shirt on-the-job, still dress professionally for the interview. Choose something modest and comfortable that doesn’t increase anxiety or a tendency to feel self-conscious.

14. Watch online tutorials or read online articles related to the job role.

15. Interview someone who already has a similar job or a recruiter at another organization that employs similar employees. Find out what skills and education are desired and sought out for that job role.

16. Enroll in an educational course or study online/read articles to show a commitment to the vocational field of your choosing.

17. Consider volunteering or and internship in your area of vocational interest to gain experience.

18. Thank the interviewer in advance for their time and the opportunity, and add one sentence about why the opportunity is a suitable match for you. “Thank you for your time today and this opportunity to apply for the position of (insert job title). I am pleased to be under consideration for employment at an organization that (insert positive fact about organization).

19. If you present as atypical, when it comes to body language consider being transparent about how you present, particularly if you tend to lack eye contact, don’t have a firm handshake, stutter, or make gestures that might be misinterpreted. Be self-confident in your self-awareness. It’s a good thing to be self-aware. (See article for the pros and cons of disclosing.)

20. Get a feel for the amount of detail the interviewer is looking for from the start. In example, after your second or third response, ask a question for clarity. Examples include: Was that a clear response? Did I provide enough information to create a clear picture? Would you like me to elaborate or explain further? Did that answer your question accurately? Was that too little or too much information?

21. Practice being brief in response and time spent on answering one question. If a job role, such as software testing, requires precision and ability to be brief, practice that skill in your interview responses.

22. Weave personal skills related to the job role into your responses.

23. If you were a part of a team in the past, where you picked up most of the slack, word the experience in a positive light, without implying or stating blame. In example, “I tend to make sure a group project is done on time and to standards, even if it means putting in extra time and attention.”

24. If you share something that the interviewer might perceive in a negative light, such as missing a deadline, come back and add a blanket statement that highlights your positive traits: Example: “Although I missed that one deadline over 5 years ago, 99.9% of the time I am on track, focused, and turn my projects in early. I pride myself in learning and growing from my past experiences.”

25. Paint the scene. In example, list the exact project you worked on and the number of people involved in the project. Make your response is easy for the interviewer to picture (time, place, event).

26. Ask yourself what the interviewer might be trying to find out before answering. But don’t assume you know. If unsure, ask or rephrase the question aloud to check for understanding. “In summary, you are asking how I stay organized at my current place of work. Is that correct?”

27. If unsure what was said, ask the interviewer to repeat the question.

28. For more think time, ask the interviewer to repeat the question, or say, “I need a minute of think time. Thank you.”

29. If you have a tendency to be long-winded, pause after you answer a question, before elaborating, so the interviewer can guide you, stop you, or ask follow up questions.

30. If you find yourself going on and on, stop mid-sentence, and say, “Sometimes I elaborate when I am (nervous, in a novice situation, when I am explaining something). My apologies.” And then stop.

31. Avoid words and phrases that indicate uncertainty, such as I guess, I don’t know, kind of, seems like, and I don’t think so. Use confident words such as yes, sure, I remember a time when, of course, definitely, etc. In example, don’t say, “I guess I am pretty good at working toward a goal sometimes.” Respond with, “Sure thing! I am reliable, able to work independently, know how to research to find answers, am self-motivated and GREAT at finishing what I start.”

32. If you are typically on time, but weren’t a few times in your life, focus on the majority of your behaviors, without pointing out a few discrepancies that don’t reflect your overall work ethics.

33. Don’t criticize a past employer or supervisor. If you are asked to express a frustrating time, make sure that is what the interviewer asked and be polite and professional. “I appreciate a manager who follows through and responds in a timely manner. Consistency and reliability adds to a positive workplace environment and increased work productivity. If that doesn’t happen, it can be more difficult to work with someone, but I still try my best and understand we all have different approaches on the job.”

34. Send a brief and professional, follow up email. In example, “Dear Ms. Craft, Thank you for the opportunity to interview for the position of (insert job title.) I enjoyed learning about (insert new fact) and appreciate having had the chance to share about (insert a personal skill or experience). I look forward to hearing back from you and being considered as a potential employee for (insert organization). Have a great week.” Have someone double-check the email for grammar, before sending.

35. Take it one day at a time and keep moving forward. You got this!

This blog post was originally posted here.

Contact Samantha at everydayaspergers to learn more about job coaching.

Samantha Craft is best known for her prolific writings found in her well-received book and blog Everyday Aspergers. A professional educator, she has been published in peer-reviewed journals and been featured in various literature , including Aspien Women, Autism Parenting Magazine, The Mighty, Spectrum Women Magazine, Project Aspie, Art & Autism, and Different Brains. She is a contributing author of the book Spectrum Women: Walking to the Beat of Autism and the Community Achievement Award recipient at the ANCA World Autism Festival (2017). Her works have been translated into multiple languages, with her list of traits for females on the autism spectrum shared in counseling offices around the world. Since 2012, she’s had the opportunity to correspond with over 10,000 individuals on the autism spectrum. Her blog, Belly of a Star, features her paintings and drawings, and over 100 poems and spiritual writings. Craft also serves as a vocational coach, a peer mentor, business consultant, and as the Lead Job Recruiter and Community Manager at ULTRA Testing, an innovative technology company with a neurodiversity hiring initiative. Sam’s recent appearances include Mix 96 radio, The Southwest Washington Autism Conference, and the Love & Autism Conference. She is a frequent guest speaker and workshop presenter. For more information contact us at everydayaspergers .